Lessons from the Land Without Dishwashers (#4)

This lesson is something I know that anyone who is responsible for household chores has experienced. In fact, it’s so obvious that I wonder if it’s even worth mentioning.

#4) The work of community often goes unnoticed.

Not to beat a dead horse, but I don’t really do the dishes very often. So when I do plunge in and make a dent in the pile, or when I empty the drying rack during the day, I get a bit discouraged when J comes home from work and there is already a pile of dirty dishes in the sink, hiding my hard work.

“I did the dishes today, hon!” I proudly announce on those occasions, and then I glance around sheepishly. “Really, I did. Honest.”

I want credit. Who doesn’t? I want to show that I did something to contribute to our little community, but most days I have no proof. With dishes, there is almost never any proof!

That’s the way it is with work in community.

It’s easy to blame other people for not doing their part, trust me. It’s easy to say, “That’s not my dish, I swear it!” until you’re the only one who’s been home for the last eight hours.

True story: I didn’t realize what a mess I was capable of making until one of our housemates moved out last year. Apparently I’d been subconciously blaming him for lots of things I was in fact responsible for!

Never a healthy recipe for community.

So now I’m trying to pay attention to everyone’s contribution and, especially, to appreciate the work that we all put into making community work.

* The Land Without Dishwashers blog series first appeared 
here at Texas Schmexas in December of 2011. This is the last 
entry in the series. Hope you enjoyed it!


One comment on “Lessons from the Land Without Dishwashers (#4)

  1. Dad (Stephen Sands I) says:

    Good warning for all of us. Gail and I had the same experience after her mom died and we were alone again. We used to kiddingly say that it must have been her mom who did it.

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